The KonMari method to self-care... How The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up taught me self-care.

In this digital age, I’m surprised it took me 5 years to hear about this book but it kinda did.  This little book is jam-packed with optimism, joyful tips and surprisingly a little lesson on self-care that I was so not expecting.

I remember hearing about her folding techniques a few years ago and ultimately my curiosity finally led me to buy the book.  I’m talking about Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.  Also known as the KonMari Method.  Pretty sweet review here on Goop.


These techniques are no joke.  My dresser looks like a vending machine for clothes now and it’s amazing!  Let me tell you, getting rid of 150+ books came with the most unexpected sigh of relief.

This book helped me realize why I want a tidy house and it was way deeper than I ever imagined.  I want a tidy house because “I want to like me.” (Ummm, huh??) I mean… I want my style, my inspiration and my goals front and center in my life. (Ohhh!)

This wasn’t just a t-shirt folding technique is was top-notch self-care.

Ask why you want a tidy home. Self-care might be the answer.

Before you even look at your overflowing closet, Marie urges you to find your ‘Why.’  Ask yourself why do you want to go through this process of tidying?  When you find the answer to these questions, keep going deeper.  Ask “why” again.  If you want to do yoga to lose weight, ask, why do you want to lose weight.  And so on.  Do this about 3-5 times. The answers may surprise you.

I started off with “I don’t want things to be dusty.”  And landed on “I want to like me!”  Might seem a little crazy but in context it made complete sense.  I interpreted this to mean I want to feel like I can be me and express myself in my own home.

Dust plus love equals self-care.


I want to like me and so I need self-care everyday.

My Hubby and I have been living together for almost 2 years now and I’ve wanted to paint and redo the house even longer. At the time we’d barely changed a thing and I was feeling really down and uncomfortable at home.  The space just didn’t feel like mine and it was starting to take a toll.

Thankfully I found the KonMari Method just in time and went through the house clearing out clothes and books and so much paper!  I rearranged a lot of furniture (alone, ’cause when I get the itch I just can’t wait!).  I started decorating my spaces: office, bathroom, guest bedroom, closet, etc. to be more my style and more functional for me.  The Hubbs and I worked to make compromises in our common areas.  Changed the bedroom furniture around to face the window.  I like sun and birds so, made sense.

I found I needed things I hadn’t expected.  Like plants!  And candles.  And really snuggly blankets. The space feels calmer and homier instantly.                             (Watch for a post on Hygge real soon!)

The purpose of life is to enjoy every moment.

After completing the KonMari Method I begin to like me and my home A LOT more!  I feel relaxed and creative here now.  I like being here and have more energy even on lazy days.  It’s simpler than ever to clean up quickly.  Which is so necessary when trying to keep a house puppin-proofed!

Thank you Marie Kondo for the KonMari method to self-care.

Do you feel like your spaces just aren’t pulling their weight around the house?  Does your environment have a big impact on your creativity?  What’s your why for wanting to make a change in your space?  Leave a comment below.











4 thoughts on “The KonMari method to self-care”

  1. Thanks Michelle! You’re so right, and just think how much greater the experience can be knowing that at the beginning.

  2. Love this post! I am KonMari-ing my life now and feel the same way. It’s much more then moving stuff around and really a gateway to self reflection and creating the life of your dreams.

  3. Beautifully said Jessie! I’m totally on the ‘living more simply’ train with you! Teaching your daughter to use her creativity is one of the most valuable lessons you can give her. Sounds like you’re one awesome Moma!

  4. I pretty much feel just as stressed out at home as I do at work. we have had the same decor and furniture for a while now and it is just not working. we have been trying to live more simply and it is working little by little. I can’t wait to feel relief when I get home from a long day at work. I can’t wait for my creativity to come out into my house so when when we have visitors they enjoy being over and we enjoy them. I want to be able to show my daughter how she can use her creativity to change her world. I just want to be happy in the very moment that I’m in.


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